Friday, November 14, 2008

One Month to Go and the Reality Sets In

I don't know what happened, but in the past couple of days the reality of what is about to happen set in.

I don't know what the trigger was, but the butterflies appeared.

Yesterday I sent out a mass email to my coworkers, the ones who I communicate with daily or weekly, to let them know that I will be out of the office sometime soon without much warning and for an indefinite amount of time.

Yipes!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Baby Shower # 3

Today was the baby shower at Goodlettsville Middle School where I work. After each shower, I'm filled with such gratitude and warm feelings and think "best shower ever!" Truly each event was special for various reasons and today's celebration was no different. I really appreciate the genuine and generous support I've received throughout my pregnancy. Daily I am asked how I am feeling - teachers see me more often in the halls as I make my frequent trips to the bathroom! : ) - and other curious questions about the pregnancy. It's lovely to be surrounded by such care and concern.

The loot was bountiful! The theme at this shower included books which has been consistent and of course, we're educators. There is a lot of washing/cleaning type items (washcloths, hooded towels, an adorable robe) so the baby will be clean. : ) Also I got TONS of baby outfits, most from consignment stores, thrift stores and yard sales, which I love; again most stuff looks hardly worn. Finally baby Sanders will have some clothes to wear - seriously she or he is set for at least the first year. I also received lots of Target gift cards : ) as well as some gift cards/certificates from Whole Foods/Body and Uncommon Goods which I really look forward to using!

My favorite gift and though it seems unfair to pick a most liked present when presented with such an outpouring of generosity, for those present, they saw my reaction. The "Life is Good" red snowflake onesie and hat are definitely the winner! They are SO adorable and perfect for a December (winter) baby. I have another outfit picked out for the baby's trip home from the hospital, but this one is a keeper and I anticipate the baby will wear it often.

Big shout out to Niki for her second set of shower gifts which are her very creative creations. We now have a peace blanket and earth onesie, a blanket with "Sanders" (no first name since that's a surprise!) sewn on it, a 37216 zip code onesie, and two colorful burp cloths.

The food was good - I cannot forget the food, best part of being pregnant! Whitt's BBQ is so yummy. The dessert was homemade cupcakes (from a local business woman, recommended by a co-worker who always gets her birthday cakes made by her). You know I love the frosting! : )

A BIG thanks to my co-workers who organized a wonderful event - Tara P., Dominique, Jeanie and Niki. You are the best!

Today was blessed for MANY reasons. Happy Election Day!

Baby Sanders cannot wait to meet everyone - soon ...

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Misery Loves Company

For anyone who has been paying attention to my blog entries you might have noticed that I haven't written much in the last few weeks. Actually my sister said something about there not being anything new; it's nice to be missed : )

I was sick, very tempted to get some traditional meds so you know I was really miserable.

It's not really surprising considering the time of year and change in weather as well as my vocation. Germs have been flying around. Combine that with a month of little sleep created by this heartburn phenomenon (oh my goodness!), then this congestion that happens in the 7th & 8th months [maybe next month, too : ( ] and constant trips to the bathroom. Plus I got the flu shot which is recommended for women who are pregnant and I always get the shot because of having asthma. Voila, a cold is in the making! Then I got a vicious cough which is not good with a large belly, especially when the baby decided to start a full-court press on my chest. It was not good times. I missed work most of last week which is difficult for me to do, but I had no choice - I wasn't going anywhere.

Funny side story:
My co-worker was out 2 days for a conference and then discovered she had pink-eye. Thankfully I didn't see her until after she started treatment and was permitted to return to work. I told Jai that if I'd gotten pink-eye after all of the other ailments, I would have said "take me to the hospital and take this baby out now. I am DONE!"

Fortunately I have a wonderful husband; Jai continues to pick up the slack, keeps the house running and takes care of Johnders. I feel blessed to have an equal partner who loves me and the baby dearly.

I discovered some natural remedies that really work and saved me.
1. licorice (liquid extract I put in my water) - helps with congestion AND heartburn
2. papaya extract (yummy chewable tablets) - helps with digestion AND heartburn

I felt so much better today. We went for a walk at Shelby Park, ate dinner out and saw a movie. I told Jai we have to take advantage of any burst of energy! I anticipate a return to exhaustion soon enough. There is limited time to do anything we want to do before the baby's arrival really changes our lives forever.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Reality Check, 1-2-1-2

Until yesterday having a baby and being a stay-at-home dad was somewhere in the future. I knew the due date but it didn't mean a whole lot.

Yesterday I met with several upper level staff members (my boss, her boss, director of HR and director of Administration) about my future leave time and what not. I went in naïvely thinking there were possibilities of flex time or doing what I do part-time or something. During the meeting I was told in no uncertain terms that when my FMLA period has expired I will work at the will of the library. I imagine in more prosperous times flex, tele-commuting and whatnot might have been on the table but during this economic down turn there is no way the library can play with such ideas.

I'm not mad but I was served a true reality check. I might be able to work in the library but it will be part-time probably as a circ asst and who knows what my pay will be. As difficult as this job is I don't know how to feel about not doing it anymore. This presents tremendous opportunity - I will have little excuse for starting school or writing that book or who knows what - but it's gonna be hard too. Our income will drop about 40%, we'll have a baby and I will be the oddity known as stay-at-home dad.

My life is really about to change.

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Baby Shower #2

Thanks to the G-ville crew for getting together a great show.
Niki, Tara P., Kris are Tara J.'s co-workers; they live in East Nashville/Madison area so we're neighbors as well as friends; Kris & Tara J. carpool 2 days a week.

Thanks to everybody who came and shared their loot with us.

Thanks to Bonnie for the new plant Aster Oblongifolius "Raydon's Favorite". I missed GroWild's sale day, but Bonnie went and picked up some cool stuff.

Go to Christopher Cotton's flickr for photos...

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Business of Being Born

Last night we watched Rikki Lake's Business of Being Born. I saw this as sort of a Super Size Me for baby birthing. It is told from the perspective of home birth advocates and it shows the glory of that side while it shows traditional obstetricians as closed minded doctors who think you can only do birth with all the gadgets.

What I found most interesting is that the featured home birth advocates and midwives look at what they do as empowering. I see some of that - the field of obstetrics having turned the most natural of processes into something scary and clinical - but what I didn't understand was the pain of pregnancy being liberating. I guess you have to be a woman for that to make sense.

Tara had mentioned the possibility of home birth but it weirds me out. I'm a little more conventional and I am also a worrier so I think about what if there are problems and whatnot besides, insurance doesn't cover home birth which, they talk about in the movie. If you like these exposé type documentaries I would recommend it. Some of it was enlightening. Some of it I assumed and Tara knew. 

Warning: naked pregnant woman, surgery and childbirth are all explicitly shown.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Who's got the look?

Even though we're not going to learn the gender before delivery, we're (Tara mostly) really curious what the baby will look like.

Tara (only one of Tara without Susie even though she's not a baby):

Tara about 3 yrs

Jai:

Baby Jai

Thursday, October 9, 2008

One down and another to go (for me)

Thanks to all of the Edgehillites who showed your love and support this past weekend. The baby shower was great. One of the attendees said we will have a well-read but naked baby. We got a bunch of great books and some clothes. It was funny.

I will miss the one at Tara's work, but we have one at the house next week and that should be pretty crazy.

Tara's side note: It was great! It was lots of fun, got to visit with some friends I don't see often. The clothes we received were "green" (either recycled (barely used) or organic/fair trade) items which was awesome! We actually have a few clothes from that consignment sale I went to in August. I got an email about another consignment sale in mid-November. I'll be taking a power nap to make that event - you know it! : ) I'm looking forward to the shower on Oct. 18 at our house. We worked on the nursery over the weekend, putting gifts away. We still need a crib and bassinet, but there's always Craig's List and Freecycle so we're going to evaluate our needs after the 3 showers.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Midwife visit # 5

Susie came with me this time since she was in town. All is going well. I gained 4 pounds since last visit 5 weeks ago. Overall I've gained 24 pounds so I'm happy and the nurse guesstimated I might gain about 10-12 more pounds in the remaining 10 weeks. As I say to Jai, "as long as I don't weigh more than you!" :)

It was fun for Susie to hear the baby's heartbeat; the midwife (Emma, another full-timer, I think I have 2 more to meet) said it is good and strong. They are all wicked nice and enthusiastic and they love that we're not finding out the gender. She had me sign the release about declining the gestational diabetes test. Actually Soheyl called me a few weeks ago to check in with me and discuss the pros and cons of doing the test and encourage me to keep eating healthy and watch carbs; Emma talked with me about that also.

Ironically Susie and I then got something to eat, quite a few carbs, not too many veggies. To top it off we went to Gigi's Cupcakes - yummalicious! If you haven't gone there and you live in Nashville, you must. I love cake, especially the frosting. These cupcakes are creative and artistic and also made daily so they are moist and the frosting is AWESOME!

Back to the midwife, I had a few questions for her ... of course. : )
  • The baby makes these strange (to me) flutter movements - probably hiccups.
  • Leg cramps - probably related to potassium and magnesium intake so banana-a-day.
  • Heartburn - she commiserated & supported the natural remedies, but also mentioned OTC options like Tums & Pepto-Bismal; I'll see what happens.
  • Discharge - UGH! You don't want to know. Though it's normal and common.
I mentioned to Emma that Jai & I went on the L&D tour at Vanderbilt and how reassuring it was to see the facilities. The people were really friendly and about 1/4 of the women in our tour are using a midwife so I didn't feel so alone. Even though I'd like for Soheyl to deliver our baby, if that's not possible, I feel certain that we will be comfortable with one of the other providers.

Monday, October 6, 2008

If Ethel Kennedy can do it, so can I! : )

Susie was in town the first week of October (her school has this brillant calendar of 9 week quarters with 2 weeks of break - awesome!) and we had a great time visiting. When she first saw me, she said "that is not a food baby!" She followed it with "and if it was, we have a problem!" We laughed and laughed - she taught me that phrase so it has special meaning.

As I wrote in an earlier post, Susie asked if we were going to play tennis and I said of course. Well, I didn't know how tired I would be in this trimester. Also I played tennis earlier in the week with a co-worker, Jeanie, and wondered how I'd feel by the weekend. All was fine, but I definitely had to be careful and try not to run or move too quickly - instinct and competitiveness kicks in despite a 7 month pregnant belly!

Another semi-regular tradition when Susie is in Nashville is we play doubles tennis with 2 male friends of ours. Usually we play mixed doubles, but for some reason Susie & I teamed up to play against them. It was fine, I really didn't think we'd play too long (Jeanie and I had only hit for 30 minutes on Monday). Susie & Tara together are uber-competitive and so are the guys; I felt good so we played one set (we won 6-4), then started a second set. The weather was pleasant, not too warm, nice breeze. I really didn't think we'd play long, but they were leading 3-1 and so we kept at it and pulled ahead to 5-3. Then we went back and forth until we tied at 6-6 ... tiebreaker time! The men started off well, got a lead of 5-1. Then I served some good points and amazingly we rallied to get to 6-6 and we finished with 8-6.

Final score: 6-4, 7-6. They were slightly bitter - "it really is not fair that the THREE of you beat us." : )

I'm not sure how much tennis I'll play as the weeks progress. I doubt much, but I look forward to the spring league starting in April and doing some clinics in February and March to prepare. It definitely will help with getting back in post-baby shape.

Jai adds: Tara forgot to mention that the story goes that Ethel Kennedy played tennis all nine months of at least one of her pregnancies and this is a reminder Bonnie (Tara's Mom) uses often.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

To Touch or Not To Touch?

Is that REALLY the question?

Really? Seriously?

For me the question is WHY?

Why do people feel the need to touch a pregnant woman's belly? I find it extremely curious and perplexing, especially coming from strangers.

I was at a friend's baby shower recently and she has a nice basketball shape. Yet I have no desire to touch it. I've known her for 11 years, consider her a good friend, but that is not something I'm going to do.

Prior to being pregnant and then before I was "showing" I was determined that people wouldn't be touching my stomach. For the most part that has been true. However, there have been situations (at work with co-workers and even students, at church) in which it has happened - someone asked and I agreed or people moved quicker than I could block the hand making contact. I tolerated it. For some it has been OK. For others I find I step back or put my hand in front of me. It bothers me.

Again I'm curious about why we touch someone's stomach, stranger or friend. I guess I'm thinking if the baby moves a certain way and the pregnant person asks if you want to touch, OK, maybe I'd do it. Probably not though. My sister was in town this week and hadn't seen me since June when I was not visibly pregnant. Totally different situation now! : ) She didn't ask, I didn't ask, she didn't touch my stomach.

I appreciate when someone asks - at least that seems respectful.

Monday, September 29, 2008

Burn, Baby, Burn!

The joy & pain of heartburn - not sure where the joy is, other than the baby moving higher so maybe there's some relief from pressure on the bladder. The pain I am familiar with - oh, my goodness! I guess I didn't pay attention to my reading material and possible issues to come and was really feeling miserable and trying to figure out what I was doing/eating to contribute to the problem. Then Jai sent me an article about week 29-30 and it clicked. Even though it's not pleasant, the information was strangely comforting ... for a bit!

I never really understood heartburn and indigestion, didn't have much compassion for regular sufferers. I've had it occasionally, but nothing major. Luckily I didn't have much issue in the first and second trimesters, but it is a regular, daily, frequent occurrence now. I've never drank so much chamomile tea in my life! Crystallized ginger "candy" helps sometimes, too. I definitely feel for people who suffer and don't always have an end in sight - at least I'm hopeful my discomfort will end when I have the baby. My mom said she remembers waking up after giving birth to my sister and I and thinking "I don't have heartburn." : )

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Grandparents

Yesterday would have been my mother's 84th birthday. I didn't give it much thought until my Aunt left a message. Tara asked what it was all about and proceeded to ask if it meant anything and I said not really. 

I mean I miss my Mom and I really hate the fact that she is not around to share the milestones:
Eagle Scout - 1984
high school graduation - 1985La Alhambra
Spain - 1988
college graduation - 1989
moving out of the house - 1992
Tara - 2003
baby - 2008
Bonnie & Tara before the big moment




Of course, this opens the whole can of worms about how my life might have been different if she were still around. Would I have gone to Sewanee, or Spain, or Baton Rouge? Would I have met Tara? Would my Dad still be alive? Would they still be married?

The timing of the baby is interesting b/c if the baby comes on time it will be 2 days after what would have been my Dad's 90th. It is possible that my child will be born on my father's birthday. That's cool but there again I miss my Dad for many of the same reasons. He died 12 years after my Mom so he saw many of the milestones I mentioned above, with varying degrees of enthusiasm. ;-)

Jimmy & Fran loungin' 50s style
For a lot of reasons I don't think about their deaths the same way as my Aunt does. She really, REALLY, misses her family (she is the last member of her parents' nuclear family left) and it weighs her down. My parents cross my mind a lot and I would say, most often in that "what if" mode. I see changes in the world and in my life and I would love to have their input.  The thought is usually gone as quickly as it arrived. I have my periods of depression, or as my Mom said, "feeling blue" but they aren't terribly overwhelming.

Bonnie, the Gardner



I do wish my child had the opportunity to know my parents. I knew my grandmothers but not my grandfathers and unfortunately my child(ren) will follow suit. I guess I have the opportunity to make them into mythological beings, which isn't such a bad opportunity. Besides we always have Bonnie and she will make up for everybody else who's not around.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Daddy Disconnect

Is it just me or does this in some way seem unreal?

Obviously Tara's body is changing. Obviously we are adapting the house and registering for gifts but as I told Tara last night none of this matches the pop culture image of life with a pregnant woman should be like and that is the only experience I have with a pregnant woman.

Tara still does a lot. Tara still eats the same as she always did, she falls off the wagon a bit more than usual but she still makes breakfast, lunch and dinner on most days. She's not needy or touchy-feely so there's been no, come rub my belly. 

I guess it will hit me the closer we get but right now - at 28 weeks - it doesn't seem so real to me.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Third Trimester - TIRED!

As with the transition from first to second trimester and feeling exponentially more energetic, the same seemed to happened immediately from the second to third trimester ... no energy! It is unbelievable how tired I am. Unfortunately I hear often how that's good training for living with a newborn and in general being a parent. UGH! In addition to the brain cell loss, the baby is using everything and leaving me with nothing. These days my goal is to go to work and hopefully accomplish something and get home. Occasionally I have plans after work, but that's going to have to change. Same with blog posts. I was so excited to create the blog and add to the blog ... then ... now I'm too tired! Jai will have to do more - just as he's picked up more slack around the house. Carrying laundry up & down stairs, cleaning the house, caring for the dog [he already was doing that for the most part! : )]. This baby-supporting business is exhausting work!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

What does the expectant father do?

Since Tara's been pregnant, I've been reading lots of books about expectant fathering and you know what? I've noticed that it looks a lot like pre-expectant husbanding...
Tara: Jai, can you get this out of the car?
Jai: OK

Tara: I left a list of things for you to do while I'm gone.
Jai: Mmmhmmm.

Tara: Did you take a shower?
Jai: No
Tara: Why not?
Jai: Because.

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Exercise during pregnancy

I love to exercise. I know that makes me somewhat of a freak. : ) However, I truly enjoy working out, getting sweaty, feeling the adrenaline and endorphins course through my body. I exercise for a variety of reasons - overall health, weight management, competitive spirit as well as solitary time. Also I love muscle tone (on me and others) - for example, Serena Williams ... amazing!

Super SerenaUsually I ride my stationary bike for 30-45 minutes every morning when I don't go to the Y for my aerobics classes. In April and May that wasn't happening - sleep triumphed. However, I still attended my Zumba class 2 mornings a week and went to water aerobics 2 afternoons a week. I like routine and even being pregnant I made some of it happen.

I already mentioned the beginning of the pregnancy and the spring tennis league. Playing tennis was my savior. In June the summer tennis league started. I decided to be ambitious since I'd been undefeated in the previous seasons and I went to tennis camp and thought it'd be good for my tennis "growth." So I signed up for the 3.5 league. However, I didn't consider a few factors in my decision-making process. I was going to be 14-20 weeks pregnant, 10 pounds heavier, it's HOTTER in June & July and the players are much better. Lastly I hate to lose and lose I did. My record was 2-4 with one default so technically I could say I was 3-4. I still had fun and played some great matches. Also I learned a lot about my game and some skills I desperately need to improve in order to be more competitive at the 3.5 level. My goal is 4-3 for spring '09!

Sadly I haven't played tennis in weeks and as my baby bump grew, I thought all that bouncing around would be uncomfortable plus I don't have a regular tennis partner (that's why I love the league). Recently I was talking with my sister who is coming to Nashville for a week's visit in early October and she asked if we were going to play tennis. We always play tennis when we get together whether in Phoenix or Nashville or one of our sister trip destinations. I answered "oh, yes" even though I haven't played in awhile and told her what our mom is always saying. "Ethel Kennedy (married to RFK I think) played tennis up until she delivered all of her babies" (I think she had 9-10 kids). I'm no Ethel Kennedy, but I hope I can move around and hit a few balls, maybe some games.

I stopped going to Zumba class in early August - too jarring - and I miss the fun dance moves. I still ride my stationary bike (only 20 minutes in the morning) and use my hand weights (a few reps). I still have water aerobics class, too. It's nice to be weightless in the water and also it is gentle on my joints. Thankfully I haven't had any swelling of the ankles so walking to and from the Y continues to be possible and good exercise, too.

Monday, September 8, 2008

Second Trimester - the last few weeks

In general the second trimester has been great. I haven't been as tired as I was during the beginning of the pregnancy, I eat anything and everything, I still can move and sleep comfortably. Even going to the bathroom often hasn't been too inconvenient - I drink water constantly so I was used to frequency. Finally the baby bump appeared, I started wearing maternity pants and tops, new bras were a necessity and people could more confidently determine I was pregnant and not just a little fuller around the middle. : ) During these weeks and months, I first felt flutters that have become more definite movements by him or her.

As I approach the end of 27 weeks and soon will begin the 3rd trimester, I feel HUGE! I know that size is relative and my perception is different from others ("you don't look 6 1/2 months pregnant!"). However, I truly wonder about the increasing size I will become. I'm definitely feeling more tired and I can see the need for those daily naps again. I'm a little slower getting out of bed and off the couch, I go to the bathroom a lot and the heartburn returned! Thankfully this baby is mellow, moves a bit, but no rib strains or elbow jabs like WWF (or WWE as it's now called) ... yet! : ) Thankfully the baby's heartbeat always sounds strong & loud when I visit the midwife. Mellow is good, like Jai's personality, and I hope that bodes well for post-birth also.

Nesting Weekend

Tara and I have been fretting about where and how to do a baby registry. We want people to reuse as much as possible (shop goodwill & consignments). However, we know that some won't or can't do that. We also want to use as many natural and/or organic products. Again, we recognize that might be difficult for some. We went to Target and created a registry. We exhausted what they had in the store and added online only items. In addition we list some other vendors, mostly online companies (see list above).

We also did some rearranging in the house. We are fortunate to live in a large enough house where we don't have to do a lot. The nursery is the room I had as a child and young adult. When we renovated 3 years ago we painted the room green, a neutral color good for either gender; it won't be repainted until the child wants to help. We needed to change it from living/office space to baby space and that's a lot of what we did this weekend. There's still some to do!

Friday, August 29, 2008

Why Midwifery?

Some people might wonder why we're using a midwife instead of a traditional OB/GYN. One reason is I'm not very traditional. I'm a simple person when it comes to health care. Other than managing my asthma which is fairly mild at this point in my life, I lead a healthy life (eat organic "whole foods" as much as possible, exercise frequently, don't smoke) and usually go to my primary care physician once a year. I rarely use over-the-counter and prescription medications (as needed for my asthma). A drug-free kind of child birth fits my model of health care and midwifery seems like a natural fit. I could go "natural" with an OB/GYN, but the traditional medical model is potentially a lot more intrusive than I want. "You could have complications so let's check on everything rather than seeing me as a normal pregnant person."

Having said all that, it has been fascinating working with the West End Women's Health Center because it seems like a compromise of traditional midwifery and traditional obsterics practices. Throughout June and July I read Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth which basically tells the story of midwifery. Ina May is famously known from the midwifery practice at The Farm in Summertown, TN. I heard about The Farm often as a child of the 70's & 80's because one of my mom's good friends was a resident and currently is a midwife/instructor in Knoxville, TN. I have always had a positive association with The Farm and its values/tenets of living in community.

However, I didn't know much more about midwifery and this book is very informative and confirms my beliefs about how I want my child birth experience to be. Even at my AMA (advanced maternal age) I am not interested in having many of the diagnostic tests performed and that has been somewhat in conflict with SOP (standard operating procedure) even at WEWHC which surprises me. These tests used to be done for a specific medically driven concern - older age of mother, family history of genetic disorder, or some other genuine reason. With technological and medical developments as well as fear of malpractice, it seems like these tests have become standard and expected for all rather than rare and only truly necessary for a few.

Pregnancy and child birth are a normal part of life; women have been having children for centuries with the assistance of midwives. Actually outside of the United States, midwifery is much more common - something like 90% of women in the world use a midwife, only 5-10% use a different model. In the US, it is the opposite - only about 5-10% of American women use a midwife and most of those are affiliated with a hospital. Ironically that reminds me of the issue of last names when a WOMAN gets married. About 8% of women retain her "maiden" last name or hyphenate - 92% change to her husband's (in a heterosexual model). Once again I'm a non-traditionalist!

There is the convenience of insurance connected with using the WEWHC versus giving birth at The Farm or at home. It is still significantly cheaper to give birth using a midwife, even at the hospital - so I'm told by the WEWHC office manager. However, these lab tests cost money (someone pays for it) as well as being intrusive, possibly painful and potentially harmful to the fetus in addition to any emotional and mental anguish depending on the results.

At the end of my most recent visit to the midwife (not Soheyl again), she mentioned that at my next visit (28 weeks) I would have the test done for gestational diabetes. I said that I wasn't going to do the test and she looked up, seemingly surprised and said "not at all." I didn't understand that comment because I thought you have it or you don't. I said "not at all." Then she said she'd leave a note for my primary midwife who would prepare something for me to sign stating that I was declining the test. Interestingly enough it wasn't presented as a possible test to take and here's some information about why or why not to do it. It was presented as a standard test to have done.

I've read about the test - I don't have any of the symptoms. I haven't had fast weight gain, I don't eat much processed foods, I exercise, I don't have a family history of diabetes, and I eat because I'm hungry. Also I don't want to drink some sugary gunk, wait for an hour for them to take some blood and see if my blood sugar is high. That isn't natural!

I am happy with the WEWHC in general. When I asked the midwife about Labor & Delivery at Vanderbilt - can you move around, what kind of fetal monitoring is used, can you eat & drink, what about bath/showers, limits on labor time before induction, how do they feel about a birth plan, having people at the delivery, etc. - I received pleasing and comforting answers. The number of C-sections performed is low and there isn't pressure to get an epidural; it sounds like a more relaxed attitude about natural child birth which I would expect with midwifery.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

POTATO Consignment Sale

Again I've already mentioned that I'm thrifty. Well, there are gods (goddesses, too) and angels giving me such wonderful information. POTATO is Parents of Twins And Triplets Organization. My mother isn't a member - not sure of the year of its foundation. However, my friend, Krissie, is. Her due date is Dec. 14, day after mine; however, since she's having twins I suspect she'll deliver her baby girls before me.

I had invited her to a consignment sale in July, but neither of us could go. Then Krissie told me about the organization's sale on August 23. I marked my calendar of course, but after the first few weeks of school I wasn't feeling too much like going. Something made me and ironically I got there at 12:30pm when most everything is 1/2 off. : )

Initially I was quite overwhelmed. The sale takes place in a large gym at a local middle school and there is tons of stuff scattered around this massive space. You receive a laundry basket when you enter and the place is divided into categories I discovered as I moved around. The clothes are divided by gender (boy, girl) and age groups (example: newborn, 3-6 months, 6-12 months, 2T, 3T, possibly all the way to 5T).

I looked at a few things - breast pump, crib sets, blankets - but I'm not too sure what we really need. Also I didn't really know what to expect and how much some items cost. I called Jai who searched online and checked prices for a Boppy and a Baby Bjorn. Both were significant discounts ($2 & $7.50 each with the 1/2 discount) and I got excited at buying these items on the cheap! I picked up a Boppy cover for $4 as well as 4 receiving blankets and 2 burp cloths, too.

Then I saw baby clothes and it was on! Quite quickly I filled the basket with five adorable sleepers of various sizes and colors (all gender neutral - greens, yellows, browns, oranges) as well as 7 onesies (Days of the week), 3 hats (Winnie the Pooh; I love Pooh!), 6 pairs of socks (so tiny!), a hooded bath towel, a couple of shirt & pants sets, two rompers (the Panda one is my favorite), two PJ sets, and What To Expect the First Year.

TOTAL = $38.50

... SHUT UP! A Boppy alone costs more than $30!

It's awesome! Amazingly like the used maternity clothes, the stuff is in good shape, especially for messy babies. However, they grow out of clothes quickly too. A couple of items had the original tag - never worn!

As I was checking out and paying I saw more sections with videos, toys, strollers, mattresses, high chairs, even maternity clothes. I had to stop, but I learned that there is a sale in April. I cannot wait to go and get more clothes for hardly any money! : )

Side note: The volunteers working the sale are POTATO and were extremely nice and helpful; one woman, a former co-worker, is Krissie's mentor. It truly is a small world. Also the financial cost is a big savings for Jai & I, but these parents also are making back some of the money they've spent on their children. It's a big circle.

Recycle, reuse, reduce!

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Baby Gates are up!

YEAH!!!! Finally the gates are up!

Some of you might be wondering why now, seems so soon - the baby isn't even here, much less crawling. Well, we have a dog. For the past year we've closed doors to barricade areas of the house from Johnders' natural curiosity and exploration. However, we don't have a door to the staircase. This leads to the upstairs which is the Forbidden City for Johnders. Thankfully our friends, Kathy & Brian (Johnders' foster family before we "adopted" him), loaned us a baby gate. We used it to bar the stairwell ... with a glitch ... it doesn't fit exactly and going up & down the stairs has been a chore.

After much cajoling and fascinating discussion about the eventual need for a baby gate at the bottom and top of the stairs (I could be sexist and say "Men!", but I think it's more ignorance) Jai found what we liked AND installed a pair of black metal gates that coordinate nicely with our iron rails. We're getting used to the latches and by the time the baby is crawling around we'll be pros at opening and closing them and keeping everyone safe. Actually I enjoy the one at the top of the staircase because of my frequent trips to the bathroom during the night! : )

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Ultrasound #2 (20 weeks)

We went for visit #3 on July 28 and this time Jai met Soheyl who I think is really cool. He agrees! : ) All was OK. I only gained 2 pounds since the last visit 6 weeks ago which is a freaking miracle considering I went to England and Seattle where I ate tons. Basically I feel like all I do is eat, sleep and go to the bathroom CONSTANTLY!

This time we heard the heartbeat with the Doppler machine - very cool sound. However, what we thought was our scheduled ultrasound time because it is 20 weeks was not matched up with this appointment; it's a different office and it wasn't coordinated correctly (partly my fault). Unfortunately they didn't have an appointment that worked for us until the next week. It's hard for us to coordinate getting off work. Mostly we were disappointed because we were traveling to South Carolina for Jai's family reunion and wanted to share recent pics. Oh, well, they just got me! : )

The next week we got there early (Jai was off because of our trip, but I had to get to work to get ready for school orientation) and almost immediately got seen by the tech. We were told it would take 30-45 minutes because they take a ton of photos at 20 weeks to check for anatomy normality. It didn't seem to take that long though the baby wasn't always cooperating with the tech. She kept "bouncing" the gadget on my stomach (not gently) to "encourage" my alien to move to a desired position. Thankfully the tech was respectful of our request to not learn the gender. We want to be surprised.

We saw spine, fingers, liver (she said) and other body parts I really couldn't see, but I expressed my marvel. Later I mentioned my inability to see some of what the the tech identified and Jai says "really, you couldn't see that?" No, I couldn't see my baby's stuff! : )

Jai would like to add:
this goes to our different styles. Tara is a literalist, she needs specifics. I, on the other hand, can extrapolate from basics...assume, if you will. Once my ophthalmologist told me - my prescription was way out of date - that I was a good blur interpreter.


Thursday, July 24, 2008

Maternity Clothes

Many of you know that I am cheap and thrifty. Well, maternity clothes are expensive! Luckily I was able to wear my regular clothes into the 5th month with a few baby doll tops and friendly elastic waist pants. : ) In early June in anticipation of my trips, not sure how much I would grow and not wanting to be uncomfortable, I bought a pair of shorts and an empire waist blouse at a mall maternity store. Major sticker shock sent me looking for affordable alternatives. Fortunately I have a couple of friends who were pregnant and due a few months before me and they blessed me with some great stuff they couldn't or didn't want to wear anymore.

THANK YOU, Anne Marie and Deidre.


In addition to my dear friends, I explored other options - Craig's list, thrift stores and consignment sales. Jai can and will attest to my slightly obsessive nature, especially during my maternity clothes searching time. Once we returned from Seattle where I acknowledged that I couldn't get by as before, I literally scavenged the city for maternity clothes.

Finally EUREKA! Southern Thrift Store (one on Gallatin Road across from our house which is sweet and another one on Charlotte Ave.) and New Life Thrift Store (also on Charlotte) have well organized maternity sections and I got some good stuff. I went to Goodwill on one of its $0.99 days; unfortunately there wasn't a separate maternity section. Since I was on summer vacation and thrifty I looked. I found some more good stuff! The most expensive item I bought at any of these stores was $11 (with the original sale tag on it!). I was so bummed that it wasn't 1/2 off 'brown tag' day; however, I wasn't taking a chance on waiting for that day and those great pants being gone. It was still an awesome deal. Most stuff was $2-5 and you cannot beat that.

Whatever your attitude is about used items, these maternity clothes were in excellent condition - you grow out of stuff fairly quickly - and I always wash items before I wear. : )

The only other items I've bought "new" were bathing suits (I go to the outdoor pool a lot in the summer and I love my water aerobics class, especially as I get bigger), underwear (though not maternity, I couldn't find anything I liked; I just got a bigger size of my favorite stuff) and bras (organic cotton that can be nursing bras, too!). However, you know me - I got them all on SALE! : )

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Second Trimester - the beginning weeks

June started the beginning of trimester #2 and am I glad. I almost literally to the day of ending the first trimester started to feel better! Partly psychosomatic I'm sure as well coinciding with the beginning of my school's summer break, but I felt much more energetic. Lucky for me since I would need it as I embarked on a month of traveling that took me from Nashville to New England to London, ENGLAND!

I visited friends in Rhode Island and Vermont and Maine as well as a family reunion in New Hampshire. Also during the NE trip I was at tennis camp for 3 days during an unusual heat wave that took down non-pregnant people. I had a great time with my sister and 2 Wellesley friends, Pauline and Lisa. Thankfully they checked on me often and made sure I rested and rehydrated. I also enjoyed the carbo-loading necessary to play tennis 5 hours a day in the SUN! Ahh, I'm loving the eating part of pregnancy. : )

THEN Pauline and I headed to England for a week and went to Wimbledon to watch TONS of tennis for 3 GREAT days. We saw the Williams sisters play doubles TWICE, one time on Centre Court! Jet lag and pregnancy sleepiness seem to be interchangable, almost indistinguishable actually, and we made the most of our trip abroad. Also I got the cutest baby hat with the Wimbledon emblem!


When I returned to Nashville after a harrowing journey via Chicago's O'Hare airport (never again!), I was done with travel. Or so I thought since Jai & I already had travel plans to Seattle for July 4-8 and off I went again to the beautiful and green Northwest. Thank goodness for summer vacation - I was able to rest without having to go to work between these wonderful trips.